Focus on what you have TO GAIN.
8 years ago today, the 13th December 2009, I made the one decision that dramatically changed my life for the better.
On that day I was 33 yrs old and extremely hungover. I felt broken, lonely, angry and full of self-loathing. Unfit in mind & body, twice divorced, in a job I hated and just in a vicious cycle of sedation and escapism. Spiralling deeper. Never dealing with the real issues. I sat and cried.
So I decided to give up alcohol for good.
It wasn’t as easy as I thought but it’s been so worth it to get to here today. It got worse before it got better; it took a year’s worth of Cognitive Behaviour Therapy; I got to know the real me and my real friends and supporters.
Today I have been alcohol-free for 8yrs. I am happily married with two kids. I have a thriving asbestos business with an excellent team who make me proud. I am the fittest in mind & body I have ever been at 41. And I continue to learn, improve and make progress.
In 2017 it even led me to public speaking about men’s mental health issues and addiction. And also doing business coaching to help others overcome the struggles I have in life and business.
The domino effect of just one decision is incredible. Literally, life-changing.
My point: if you’re unhappy about anything in your life, YOU have the power to change it.
Don’t make excuses or blame; just do the work and get on with creating a life you deserve.
Delayed gratification is the game.
Easy choices = Hard life
Hard choices = Easy life
Here to help if you need it.
Just about to make a hard choice, and I am terrified but deep down I know it’s right even though my other half of me is saying don’t do it stick with it. So that would be the easy choice, done this for about three years, now and I have become sort of dependant on the group I am in, living in hope of better things to come. I try and fool myself the money I am spending is working when deep down I know it isn’t and to change I have to leave and re -avulate things. Scary times ahead or scary exciting times ahead only time will tell.
Hi Stephen, thanks for the comment and sharing your situation too.
Only you can make the reasoned and logical decisions about whats best for you.
The harder choices quite often lead us to much better results. However also consider anything worthwhile having takes patience, determination, commitment and resilience.
There’s a phrase about quitting when you’re “three foot from gold” based on a historical mining story often quoted in books. The story being a guy had been mining (unsuccessfully) for gold for a few years and one day he quit and sold his machinery. The guy that bought the kit then simply drafted in a mining expert who told him to mine just 3 feet from where the original guy had been. He struck gold and became rich.
So make sure you’ve explored all avenues when making your decisions.