Your biggest problem

by | Jun 30, 2023 | Blog

We’re hardwired to see the problems, the threats, the dangers and the risks.

This is great for survival of course. But not so great when it’s all you see.
What you focus on grows. What you give your time, energy and attention to will grow.

Until all you see is relentless problems. You’re blindsided. You fail to see all you’ve achieved, all you’ve overcome and all the opportunities around you.

That person that used to rise and shine has long gone, you now just rise and whine.

And it’s not attractive to be around. Think about how it’s affecting you firstly and then think about how it affects those around you, at home and at work.

Remember this: having problems will be permanent in life. But one specific problem will never be permanent. You can find a way to overcome it or accept it and move on.

“Your biggest problem is that you think you shouldn’t have problems”.

And remember a lot of your problems started as great ideas. And you’ll ignore a problem until it becomes a crisis. So kill the monster while it’s a baby. Make sense? It’s far easier that way. Losing a tonne of weight is hard. Battling to prevent a divorce is hard. Fighting to save your job or business is hard. And it all could’ve been less hard if you saw the signs and took action.

Problems and adversities reveal the real you. So be the one that remains composed and unrattled. Be the one that faces them head on and deals with them. And in the process, you learn, grow and become stronger.

Easier said then done? Yes. There’s some hardcore problems in life to deal with. But with the right mindset and support, you’ll build your resilience and keep growing.

Or you could just remain a victim or a villain.

There’s an excellent book by Donald Miller, called ‘Hero on a Mission: A Path to a Meaningful Life’. He says that in life we choose to play the character of either:
1. The Victim
2. The Villain
3. The Hero
4. The Guide

So choose to be your own hero. And then show others, guide them.

Or stay stuck on the pitty-potty or angry with the world.

Your choice…

Can’t Be Arsed

by | Jun 30, 2023 | Blog

When you don’t put in the required effort it’s called being half arsed isn’t it.

Where in life are you half-arsing it?

• Your fitness & physique
• As a parent
• As a partner
• Your work/career
• As a friend
• As a brother or sister

How often do you say “I can’t be arsed”?

These words are so often said that they’ve been shortened to CBA.

You’ll never get the results you want by being half arsed.

Life needs full arse!!

If you give full arse to:
• Your fitness and wellness
• Your family
• Your friends
• Your work

then you’ll get the results you’ve never had before.

You’ll start to feel great in yourself, you’ll have more meaningful relationships and you’ll make some progress at work too. You’ll start to realise how stuck you were and what can make you happier. You’ll have more good days than bad.

The trick is to give full arse even when you CBA.

But if you keep allowing yourself to be won over by the CBA voice then you’ll always feel stuck, disappointed, dissatisfied, unfulfilled and unhappy.

A half arsed approach will only result in:
• Fatness and illness
• Poor relationships with your family and friends • Stagnant work prospects

However if you’re willing to consistently do what only the very few are willing to do, then you’ll have the results that only the very few have. Make sense?

Most people CBA. They may start with good intentions, motivation and enthusiasm but that’s all short-lived.

The honeymoon period ends. The probation period ends. The excuses set in. Old habits die hard. The CBA in you has won. Again.

Stop waiting for the right time to go all in. The right time was yesterday, the next right time is today.

Stop with the search for the magic pill, the secret sauce, the book, the journal, the short-cuts, the coach, the course.

Motivation never lasts. Improved results can refuel it but it’s always a finite source.

The secret sauce is in the going at it with full arsed effort, commitment and consistency. Regardless of how you feel.

Carry on…