Behaviours: you are in charge of how you react: your words, your tone, your volume, your actions, your reactions, your habits. Your behaviours should serve you well not create more chaos or results you don’t want. Think about your actions and consequences. Have you got good daily routines? How are your social & communication skills? Do they improve your circumstances, do they make you better off in health, wealth, love & laughter, do they nurture relationships, do they solve problems?

Or are you just angry at life? Responding in anger or apathy will not lead to positive outcomes. A persons anger can often be in direct proportion to their level of insecurity. Worth considering.

Attitude: you choose how you show up. A good positive can-do attitude will help you improve your situation. It’s okay to feel negative about something but you choose how long for and what you will do about it. Don’t just sit on the pity potty. Deal with any problems, have that awkward conversation. Just believe in yourself because you can do it.

Smile: just smile. It’s easy. Try it. Others will naturally smile back. Say “good morning” and smile to strangers. You might make their day. And you’ll feel better.

Invest: invest in yourself. You are the most important person. Self-care. Self-love. Self-confidence. You must be on point to be able to do your best and give your best. Do all these things very well: sleep, hydrate, eat, exercise and educate.

Courage: what got you here won’t get you there. Have the courage to change, try new things to get new outcomes. Take the first step. Take a leap of faith. Believe in yourself, it is possible, you are able and you deserve it.

Solitude: some alone time is vital to your wellbeing. Peace and quiet to think, to write, to learn. Create some alone time in your daily schedule. Start with your mornings, have some calm time to prime and ready yourself for your day. Then evening time to decompress and reflect on your day. Then schedule time to ‘date’ yourself, have coffee, or lunch, a cinema trip or your hobbies. Just learn to love spending time alone doing something just for you.